This concluding chapter of first defines three different levels of difficulty with a : batel, , and safek. It then discusses mistaken remarriages, safeguards against misleading appearances and personal interests, situations in which later relations may create new , and the responsibilities and restrictions that govern divorce.
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Whenever we have said in this work, “the is void,” “it is not a ,” or “she is not divorced”—
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this means that the is void according to law,
These expressions describe the strongest level of invalidity used by the . The has not effected a divorce under law.
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and she remains fully a married woman.
Her original marriage remains completely intact. This is not merely a Rabbinic defect in an otherwise effective divorce; on the level, she is still married to her husband.
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If she married another man, she must leave him,
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and a child born from that union is a .
Since the first marriage was never terminated under law, she was still an eishes when she entered the second relationship.
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If her husband was a ,
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she does not become forbidden to him because of having been divorced—
Ordinarily, an ineffective does not give her the status of a gerushah with regard to the prohibition against a marrying a divorced woman. Since no divorce took effect, she does not become forbidden to her husband on that account.
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except when a man divorces his wife and says to her, “You are hereby divorced from me, but you are not permitted to everyone else,”
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for although this is not a valid ,
The attempted divorce does not take effect because it does not fully release her from the marriage: he seeks to separate her from himself while still preventing her from marrying anyone else.
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she is nevertheless disqualified from the by Rabbinic law,
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as it is stated, “And a woman divorced from her husband” ( 21:7).
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The Sages said: Even if she was separated only from her husband and was not permitted to everyone else,
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she becomes forbidden to the —
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and this is called rei'ach ha- — “the scent of a ,”
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which disqualifies her from the by Rabbinic law.
Although the attempted divorce is ineffective, it has enough resemblance to a divorce for the Sages to treat it as rei'ach ha- for this limited purpose. She therefore becomes Rabbinically forbidden to the even though she has not actually become divorced.
Synopsis
When the says that a is “void,” “not a ,” or that “she is not divorced,” no divorce has taken effect under law and the woman remains fully married. The exceptional case of rei'ach ha- does not create a valid divorce, but it does Rabbinically disqualify her from the .
🔎Dig DeeperWhen a Is Completely Void
When a Is Completely Void
In this chapter, the uses batel and as precise legal categories. Batel means that no -level divorce took place. means that the works under law but has a Rabbinic defect, so the woman may not rely on it to remarry initially.
The cautions that these words are not used with this fixed distinction everywhere in the . The learner must therefore read the Rambam's definitions here as the vocabulary of this chapter, rather than automatically applying them to every earlier source.
Sources: Maggid Mishneh on 10:1; Maggid Mishneh on 8:4.
Whenever we have said in this work that “the is ”—
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this means that it is disqualified only by Rabbinic law.
This is fundamentally different from a that is batel. A described as is effective under law; the defect in it is Rabbinic. That distinction explains all the consequences that follow.
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Through it, she becomes disqualified from the under law.
Since the divorce is effective on the level, she has the status of a divorced woman and is therefore forbidden to a .
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Initially, she should not marry another man;
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but if she already married, she does not have to leave him,
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and the child is legitimate.
Because the problem with the is Rabbinic rather than a failure of the divorce, she may not rely on it to remarry initially. If she already remarried, however, that marriage is not dissolved, and a child born from it is legitimate.
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A second, valid should be written for her,
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and given to her while she remains with her present husband.
The Rabbinic defect should be corrected by obtaining a fully valid from her first husband. She does not need to leave her present husband while this is being done.
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If it is impossible to write another ,
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and the present husband is particularly conscientious and voluntarily divorces her—
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this is praiseworthy, provided that he has no children from her;
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but if he has children from her—
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he should not divorce her because of the defect in the ,
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lest this cast suspicion upon his children.
The children are legitimate. Nevertheless, if their father were to divorce their mother specifically because a defect was discovered in her original , people might mistakenly question the children's legitimacy. He should therefore not create such a damaging rumor about them.
Synopsis
A described as is effective under law but has a Rabbinic defect. The woman should not remarry initially, but if she already did, she remains with her second husband and their children are legitimate. A fully valid replacement should be obtained when possible.
Whenever we have said in this work, “This is a doubtful divorce,”
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or that “her status as a divorced woman is doubtful”—
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she may not marry another man.
This is the third category. A batel definitely did not effect a divorce. A did effect a divorce but has a Rabbinic defect. Here, by contrast, we genuinely do not know whether the divorce took effect.
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If she nevertheless married another man, she must leave him;
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and the child has the status of a doubtful ,
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because there is a doubt whether she remained an .
If the original divorce took effect, she was free to marry the second man. If it did not, she remained an eishes . Since her marital status is unresolved, the child's status is likewise doubtful.
Whether a man divorced his wife with a
or her status as divorced was doubtful,
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and he wishes to take her back—
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she is permitted to her husband.
He does not need to renew the nisu'in,
recite Sheva Berachos,
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or write a new —
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unless she had undergone a complete divorce.
According to the ’s wording, he does not need to renew the nisu'in, recite Sheva Berachos, or write a new unless she underwent a complete divorce. The and nevertheless understand that renewed are still required.
Synopsis
means that it is genuinely uncertain whether the woman was divorced. She therefore may not remarry, and if she does, she must leave the second husband. According to the ’s wording, if the original husband takes her back after a or doubtful divorce, new nisu'in, Sheva Berachos, and a new are not required; the and nevertheless understand that renewed are still necessary.
The Three Levels at a Glance
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status
If she remarried
Child’s status
גֵּט בָּטֵל / אֵינוֹ גֵּט / אֵינָהּ מְגֹרֶשֶׁת
No divorce occurred
Must leave
גֵּט פָּסוּל
The divorce is effective under law but has a Rabbinic defect
Does not leave
Legitimate
סָפֵק גֵּרוּשִׁין / סָפֵק מְגֹרֶשֶׁת
It is uncertain whether the divorce took effect
Must leave
Safek
Picture the CaseA concrete example + illustration
receives a and later discovers that something was wrong with it.
If the says the was batel, was never divorced on the level. She is still fully married to her first husband.
If they say the was , the picture is very different: the divorce worked on the level, but there is a Rabbinic defect.
And if they say it is , no one knows for certain whether the divorce took effect.
Picture it: Three women can each hear, “There is a problem with your ,” yet have three very different statuses. The exact category matters.
A void leaves the original marriage intact; a Rabbinically defective can end it under law; a doubtful leaves the woman’s status unresolved. The parchment shown is illustrative, not an actual .
🔎Dig DeeperWhen the Divorce Is Doubtful
When the Divorce Is Doubtful
The says that when the first husband takes her back after a or a doubtful divorce, the couple does not repeat nisu'in, Sheva Berachos, or the writing of a . That does not necessarily mean that the old remain fully intact.
The and understand that renewed are still required. Their reading separates the basic act that reestablishes the marriage from the ceremonies and documents that the Rambam says need not be repeated.
Sources: Maggid Mishneh on 10:3; Kessef Mishneh on 10:3.
The begins this chapter by carefully distinguishing between a that is void, one that is , and a divorce whose status is doubtful. Tiny differences in status can have enormous consequences.
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Any woman who married another man on the basis of a that was void—
As established in Halachah 1, a batel did not effect a divorce under law. She therefore remained married to her first husband when she entered the second marriage.
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must receive a from the second husband by Rabbinic law,
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so that people should not say, “A married woman can leave without a .”
Her second marriage did not create a valid marriage while she was still an eishes . Nevertheless, because she publicly entered nisu'in with the second man and lived as his wife, the Sages required her to receive a from him. Otherwise, people might see her leave what appeared to be a marriage without a and mistakenly conclude that a married woman can do so.
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She also requires a from the first husband in order to permit her to everyone else.
The two serve different purposes. The first husband's is necessary to end the marriage that never actually terminated. The second husband's is required by Rabbinic decree because of the appearance created by her second marriage.
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She becomes permanently forbidden to both of them,
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even though she entered into relations with the second man unknowingly, believing that she was permitted to him,
Her mistake was unintentional: she believed that her original divorce was valid and that she was free to remarry. Nevertheless, the rules that she may remain with neither man.
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so that people should not say, “This man took back his divorcee after she had married another man.”
Regarding her return to the first husband, the gives a specific concern: people might mistakenly understand the sequence as a valid divorce, followed by a valid marriage to another man, followed by the first husband taking back his divorcee after that second marriage.
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If either one of them transgressed and took her back,
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he must send her away.
The prohibition against remaining with either man continues even after the fact. If either one takes her back, he must separate from her.
Synopsis
If a woman entered a second marriage on the basis of a that was actually void, she requires a from both men: the first to end her actual marriage, and the second by Rabbinic decree because she had publicly lived as his wife. She becomes permanently forbidden to both.
Picture the CaseA concrete example + illustration
receives what everyone believes is a valid from . She later marries .
Then the original is discovered to have been completely void.
was actually still married to the entire time.
So why would she need a from too, if she was never really married to him?
Because to everyone watching, and appeared to be husband and wife. If she simply walked away without a , people could conclude that a married woman can leave her husband without one.
So she needs:
A from — to end the marriage that actually still exists.
A from — because required it due to the appearance created by their second marriage.
Picture it: Same woman. Two . Two completely different reasons.
When the first was void and she then remarried, one ends the marriage that actually remained, while the other is required by Rabbinic decree because of the appearance created by the second marriage. The parchments shown are illustrative, not actual .
🔎Dig DeeperRemarrying on the Basis of a Void
Remarrying on the Basis of a Void
A void leaves the first marriage intact under law, so the second could not truly take effect. Even so, once the woman publicly lived with the second man as his wife, the Sages required a from him before she could be released from that apparent marriage.
That protects the public understanding of marriage and divorce; it does not validate the second union. Because she entered the second marriage while still married to the first man, the chapter also imposes the separate consequence that she may remain with neither man.
The same law applies to a woman to whom came and testified that her husband had died,
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and she married another man,
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and afterward her husband returned.
This parallels the previous . There, she entered a second marriage because she believed that a had ended her first marriage. Here, she did so because testified that her husband had died. When he returns, it becomes clear that her first marriage had never ended.
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Whether her first husband was legally competent,
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or he was a ,
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whether she married a legally competent second husband,
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or she married a , whose are not complete —
A in this context has limited capacity, so his are not complete . Nevertheless, the applies this ruling whether the first husband or the second husband has that status. here refers to the specific classical category discussed by ; it should not automatically be applied to every deaf person today.
The law is therefore not limited to a case in which both marriages have the ordinary full legal status.
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she must leave both of them,
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and she requires a from both of them,
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and she becomes permanently forbidden to both of them.
Even where the of a are not complete, the applies the same consequences: she must separate from both men, receive a from each, and may not return to either one.
Synopsis
If testified that a woman's husband died, she remarried, and the first husband later returned, she must leave both men, receive a from each, and remains permanently forbidden to both. This applies even when the first or second husband is a .
She underwent with the second man but did not proceed to nisu'in. This is the crucial difference between this case and the previous two .
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and afterward her first husband returned,
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or it was discovered that her was void—
When it becomes clear that her first marriage never ended, it also becomes clear that the second could not have taken effect.
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she is permitted to her first husband,
Unlike the woman who actually entered nisu'in with a second man in 4–5, merely undergoing the second does not make her permanently forbidden to her first husband.
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and she does not require a from the second man,
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because do not take effect with an .
Since her first marriage was still intact, she remained an eishes , and with another man could not take effect. There is therefore no second marriage that would require a .
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Nor are we concerned that people might say, “A married woman can leave without a ”—
The remaining question is why the Sages do not nevertheless require a from the second man for appearances, as they did in Halachah 4. After all, in both cases the second relationship could not create a valid marriage.
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because she did not enter nisu'in with him,
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people will say, “There was a condition attached to the , and the condition was not fulfilled.”
Since she never proceeded from to nisu'in with the second man, people can attribute the end of those to an unfulfilled condition. There is therefore no strong appearance that a married woman simply left a marriage without receiving a .
This explains the difference between 4 and 6: second nisu'in creates the appearance that requires a Rabbinic ; second alone does not.
Synopsis
If a woman received from a second man but did not enter nisu'in, and it later becomes clear that her first marriage was still intact, the second did not take effect. She remains permitted to her first husband and needs no from the second man. Because there was no second nisu'in, the Sages did not require a merely for appearances.
Picture the CaseA concrete example
believes her husband has died. She later accepts from another man, but they have not yet entered nisu'in.
Then her first husband suddenly returns.
was still an eishes , so the second man's could never take effect.
Does she need a from him anyway?
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Since they never entered nisu'in, people can assume that there had been a condition in the that was never fulfilled. There is therefore no need for the special Rabbinic required after an actual second marriage.
Picture it: If the mistake is discovered before the second relationship reaches nisu'in, the outcome can be very different.
If a woman married another man and afterward it was discovered that her was void,
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or her husband returned after she had heard that he had died—
This continues the cases discussed above. The woman entered a second marriage believing that her first marriage had ended, but it later became clear that she had still been married to her first husband.
The now describes the financial and marital consequences of that mistaken second marriage.
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neither the first husband nor the second husband is entitled to an ownerless object that she finds,
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nor to the earnings of her work,
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nor to annul her vows.
These are rights that ordinarily accompany marriage. In this unusual situation, neither man receives these marital rights.
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Any produce that either of them consumed after she entered the second marriage,
Here, פֵּרוֹת — produce refers to the benefits or income generated by property belonging to the woman.
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is not taken back from them.
Although neither man is now entitled to these marital benefits, whatever they already consumed is not recovered from them.
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She is not entitled to a ,
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nor to any of the obligations that accompany the ,
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nor to financial support—
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from either one of them.
Just as neither man receives the ordinary marital rights listed above, she cannot demand from either man the ordinary financial rights of marriage.
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If she took such payments from either one of them,
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she must return them.
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Anything from her property that wore out or was lost,
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even from —
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is not recovered,
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from either one of them.
are assets whose value is assessed when they enter the marriage, with the husband ordinarily assuming responsibility for that assessed value. Even if such property was lost or wore out here, the rules that its value is not recovered from either man.
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A child born from the second man is a .
Since her first marriage had never actually ended, the rules that a child born from her relationship with the second man is a .
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If the first husband has relations with her before the second husband divorces her,
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a child born from that union is a by Rabbinic decree.
Although the first man remains her actual husband, Halachah 4 established that after she entered the second marriage she became forbidden to both men and requires a from the second. Therefore, if the first husband resumes relations with her before that required is given, the gives the resulting child the status of a by Rabbinic decree.
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If the second husband divorced her,
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and she collected a payment from him,
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and only afterward her first husband returned,
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or it was then discovered that the original was void—
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what she already received is not taken away from her,
whether it was for her support
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or from the .
The difference is when the true situation became known. Once the mistake has been discovered, she cannot collect the marital payments described above and must return what she takes. But if the second husband had already divorced her and she had already received support or her before the first husband returned or the original was discovered to be void, those payments are not recovered from her.
Synopsis
When a woman entered a second marriage and it later became clear that her first marriage had never ended, the ordinary financial rights and obligations of marriage do not operate normally between her and either man. A child from the second man is a ; if the first husband has relations with her before the required from the second man is given, the resulting child is a by Rabbinic decree. Payments she already received from the second man before the mistake was discovered are not taken back.
one brother performed with a woman and then went away,
The specifically says that the first brother performed with her. He does not say here that they had already entered nisu'in.
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and it was reported that he had died,
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and his brother performed with her,
The second brother acted on the report that the first brother had died and performed what was understood to be .
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and afterward the first brother returned—
It now becomes clear that the first brother had never died and that his original were still in force when the second brother performed .
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she must leave both of them,
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and she requires a from each of them,
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and all the laws described above concerning this mistaken second relationship apply to her.
The applies the same framework established in the preceding : she must separate from both men, requires a from each, and the other consequences already described apply to her as well.
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Similarly, if a man performed with a woman,
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and she went to another country,
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and he heard that she had died,
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and he married her sister,
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and afterward it became known that she had not died—
The first woman was his : had taken place, but they had not yet entered nisu'in. Believing her dead, he then married her sister.
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both women require a from him,
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and all the laws described above concerning these mistaken relationships apply to both of them.
At first glance, the requirement that the sister receive a may seem surprising. The next contrasts this case with one in which the first woman had already entered nisu'in, and Halachah 10 will explain why the Sages nevertheless required a from the sister in this case.
Synopsis
The consequences described above also apply when a brother performs after mistakenly hearing that his brother—who had performed with the woman—had died, and the brother later returns. They likewise apply when a man's is wrongly reported dead and he marries her sister: both women require a , and the previously described laws apply to them.
But if his wife, with whom he had already entered nisu'in, went to another country,
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and he heard that she had died,
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and he married her sister,
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and his wife was then found to be alive—
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her sister does not require a from him,
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and his wife remains permitted to him.
While his wife was still alive, her sister was an to him. with the sister therefore could not take effect. His attempted marriage to her created no marriage bond requiring a , and his original wife remains permitted to him.
At first glance, this seems difficult to reconcile with the preceding : there too, the first woman's sister would appear unable to become his wife, yet the required her to receive a .Halachah 10 will explain why the Sages nevertheless required a in that earlier case.
The same applies to other
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whom a man married under the assumption that they were permitted to him,
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and they were afterward found to be an —
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they do not require a ,
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because do not take effect with .
The now states the general principle behind the ruling. When a woman is an with whom cannot take effect, mistakenly going through a marriage with her does not create a marriage bond that must later be dissolved with a .
Synopsis
If a man's wife was mistakenly reported dead and he married her sister, the sister needs no when the original wife is discovered alive, because cannot take effect with an . The same principle applies generally when someone mistakenly marries an whom he believed was permitted. Halachah 10 will explain why the sister of an in the preceding case is nevertheless treated differently.
Why did the Sages require the sister of his to receive a ?
This answers the question raised by the previous two . In Halachah 8, a man performed with a woman, mistakenly heard that she had died, and then married her sister. The ruled that the sister requires a .
Yet Halachah 9 established that do not take effect with an . Why, then, is a required here?
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Lest people say, “There was a condition attached to the original ,
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and he therefore lawfully married her sister.”
People might misunderstand the sequence. Instead of realizing that the original remained in force, they might assume that those had been conditional and that the condition was not fulfilled.
According to that mistaken understanding, the first woman was never actually his , so there would have been nothing wrong with his subsequently marrying her sister.
To prevent people from treating the marriage to the sister as unquestionably valid on the assumption that the original had failed, the Sages required the sister to receive a .
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And since her sister leaves him with a ,
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her sister—the woman who was his original —becomes forbidden to him,
The first safeguard now creates a second concern. Since the other sister has received a from him, she has the appearance of being his divorcee.
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so that people should not say, “He married the sister of his divorcee.”
If he were now allowed to remain with his original , people could see that her sister had received a from him and mistakenly conclude that he married the sister of a woman he had divorced.
The Sages therefore forbid the original to him as well.
Synopsis
The sister of an requires a because otherwise people might assume that the original had been conditional and failed, making his marriage to the sister lawful. Once the sister receives a , however, the original becomes forbidden to him so that it will not appear that he married his divorcee's sister.
The Two Sister Cases at a Glance
Original woman was only an : her sister requires a by Rabbinic decree, lest people think the first were conditional and failed.
Original woman had entered nisu'in: her sister requires no , because she was an and the attempted could not take effect.
🔎Dig DeeperWhy the Sister of an Requires a
Why the Sister of an Requires a
Ordinarily, cannot take effect with one's wife's sister while the wife is alive. Here, however, the first relationship was only . An observer could imagine that the first had been conditional and later failed, which would make the second marriage appear valid.
The required from the sister prevents people from concluding that a woman who appeared married may leave without a . The sources discuss a different appearance when the first relationship had already reached nisu'in, because the return of the first husband makes the mistake much more obvious.
but mistakenly gave the to the man and the receipt to the woman,
A is a receipt acknowledging payment of an obligation. Here, it is the receipt connected with payment of the woman's . Instead of the woman receiving the and the husband receiving the receipt, the documents were accidentally reversed.
or the husband and wife themselves made the mistake,
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and the husband took the ,
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while she took the receipt,
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and they mistakenly believed that she had been divorced,
Both parties believed that the divorce had been properly completed, although the itself had actually remained with the husband.
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and sometime later the is found in the man's possession:
The now distinguishes between a case in which she has not yet remarried and one in which she already has.
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if she has not married another man,
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she is not divorced,
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for it has become clear that she had not yet been divorced,
Since the remained with the husband rather than being given to her, the required delivery had never taken place.
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and he should give her the in our presence,
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and she becomes divorced from the time it is given to her.
The original mistaken exchange did not effect a divorce. The husband can now properly give her the same in an observed delivery, and the divorce takes effect from this new giving—not retroactively from the earlier mistake.
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But if she already married another man,
and afterward the first husband produces the
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and says, “She was never divorced,
for the is still in my possession
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and never reached her hand”—
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we do not accept his claim so as to forbid her to her present husband.
Once she has remarried, she has an established status as a divorced woman. The first husband's later possession of the document is not accepted as sufficient proof to overturn that status and prohibit her to her present husband.
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Rather, she retains the established status of a divorced woman,
This — established status becomes the starting point for how the situation is evaluated.
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and we presume that the fell from her possession and that he found it,
Rather than accept the first husband's later claim that she never received the , we maintain her established status and presume that the had reached her, was later lost from her possession, and was then found by him.
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and he has now come seeking to make her forbidden to her second husband.
His present possession of the is therefore not accepted as proof that the original divorce never occurred, since accepting that claim would now prohibit her to the second husband whom she married on the basis of her established status as divorced.
Synopsis
If the and receipt were accidentally switched and the mistake is discovered before the woman remarries, she was never divorced; the husband must properly give her the , and the divorce takes effect from that delivery. If she has already remarried before the first husband produces the , however, her established status as divorced is maintained, and we presume that she had received the and later lost it.
Picture the CaseA concrete example + illustration
At a divorce, two documents are being handled:
the , which belongs with the wife;
the , the receipt, which belongs with the husband.
Someone accidentally switches them.
The husband walks away holding the . The wife walks away holding the receipt. Everyone thinks the divorce was completed.
Months later, they discover the mistake.
If she has not remarried, the solution is straightforward: she was never actually divorced, so the husband must now properly give her the .
But imagine she already remarried before the mistake surfaced.
Now the says we maintain her established status as divorced rather than allowing the first husband's possession of the to undo her second marriage.
Picture it: One envelope mix-up creates a completely different question depending on whether she has already remarried.
The and the receipt were accidentally exchanged. Before remarriage the must be delivered properly; after remarriage, the woman’s established status as divorced is maintained. The documents shown are illustrative.
🔎Dig DeeperWhen the and Receipt Were Switched
When the and Receipt Were Switched
If the mistake is discovered before remarriage, the physical documents show what happened: the wife received the receipt instead of the , so the husband must now deliver the correctly.
After she has already remarried, the ruling gives greater weight to the status that was publicly established. We do not undo that marriage merely because the first husband later produces a ; instead, we presume that she had received the proper and that it was subsequently lost.
Divorce Because of Damaging Reports or Excessive Vows
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When a man divorces his wife because of damaging reports concerning her moral conduct,
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or because she is excessive and indiscriminate in making vows—
The discusses a husband whose decision to divorce is specifically based upon conduct that he considers serious enough to end the marriage.
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we tell him, “Inform her that this is the reason you are divorcing her,
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in order to admonish her,
He is instructed to tell her explicitly why he is divorcing her, impressing upon her the seriousness of the conduct that brought about the divorce.
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and know that you will never be able to take her back.”
Before giving the , the husband must understand that if he divorces her for this stated reason, he may never later take her back.
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Why may a man who divorces such a woman never take her back?
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It is a Rabbinic safeguard,
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lest she marry another man,
repent,
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and conduct herself modestly while married to him,
The concern is that after marrying someone else, her conduct may change for the better.
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and the first husband say, “Had I known that this would happen, I would not have divorced her,”
His later statement could suggest that his original decision to divorce had depended upon the problem continuing.
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and it would then appear as though he had divorced her conditionally,
The husband did not literally give the with an explicit condition. Rather, his later statement could make the original divorce appear dependent upon the reason for which he gave it—as though he had intended the divorce to stand only if that problem continued.
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with that apparent condition having failed—
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which would make the appear void retroactively.
If such a claim were entertained after she had already married another man, it could cast doubt upon the original divorce and therefore upon the legitimacy of her subsequent marriage.
The Sages prevented that concern from arising by requiring the husband, at the time of divorce, to understand that his decision is final regardless of what she later does.
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Therefore, we tell him, “Resolve fully in your heart to divorce her,
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for she will never return to you.”
He must give the with a firm and unconditional resolve to end the marriage, knowing that even if the conduct that prompted the divorce later changes, he will not be permitted to take her back.
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If he transgressed and took her back,
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he does not have to divorce her again.
If he violated this prohibition and took her back before she had become to another man, he is not required to divorce her again.
Synopsis
If a husband divorces his wife specifically because of damaging reports concerning her conduct or because she is excessive in making vows, he is told that he may never take her back. Otherwise, if she later improves, he might claim that he never would have divorced her had he known—making the original divorce appear conditional and casting retroactive doubt upon the . He must therefore resolve from the outset that the divorce is final.
🔎Dig DeeperDivorce Because of Damaging Reports or Excessive Vows
Divorce Because of Damaging Reports or Excessive Vows
When a husband divorces because of damaging reports or repeated vows, he is warned that he may never take his wife back. The purpose is to make the finality of the divorce unmistakable from the beginning.
Otherwise, if the situation later improved, he might say that he would never have divorced her had he known. Even when that later claim could not legally cancel an unconditional , it could create damaging doubt and gossip about her subsequent marriage and children.
When the Reason for the Divorce Might Later Disappear
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Similarly, if a man divorces his wife because she is an ,
An is a woman regarded as incapable of bearing children.
This continues the principle of Halachah 12. There, the concern was that a husband might later claim that he would never have divorced his wife had he known that the conduct prompting the divorce would change. Here, the same concern arises when the divorce was prompted by a physical condition that might later prove different from what he believed.
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or because she experiences bleeding whenever they have marital relations—
The second case involves a woman who repeatedly experiences bleeding whenever marital relations take place.
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he may never take her back.
As in the previous , once he divorces her specifically because of this condition, the Sages prohibit him from later taking her back.
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Lest she marry another man,
and the woman regarded as an then bear a child,
Her later childbirth would show that the condition upon which the first husband based his decision to divorce was not as he had believed.
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or the woman suffering from the bleeding condition recover,
In the second case, the condition that prompted the divorce may later disappear.
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and he say, “Had I known that this would happen, I would not have divorced her”—
As in Halachah 12, he did not literally give the with an explicit condition. The concern is that his later statement could make the original divorce appear to have depended upon the condition continuing.
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and the would then appear to have been void,
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and her children would appear to be .
His later claim could cast retroactive doubt upon the divorce. If she had meanwhile married another man and had children, that could in turn cast doubt upon their status.
The Sages therefore prevent the first husband from taking her back, removing the basis for him to claim that he never would have divorced her had he known how events would unfold.
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If he transgressed and took her back,
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he does not have to divorce her again.
If he violated this prohibition and took her back before she had become to another man, he is not required to divorce her again.
Synopsis
If a man divorces his wife because she was regarded as an or because she repeatedly experienced bleeding during marital relations, he may never take her back. Otherwise, if the condition later proves different or disappears, he might claim that he never would have divorced her, casting retroactive doubt upon the and upon children from a later marriage.
Picture the CaseA concrete example
divorces his wife specifically because of a serious problem.
Years later, after she has married someone else, that problem disappears.
now says:
“If I had known she would change, I never would have divorced her!”
That statement is exactly what wanted to prevent.
It could make the original divorce appear as though it had depended on the problem continuing—and cast doubt on the after she has already built a new family.
So when he divorces her for one of these reasons, he must understand from the beginning: this divorce is final.
Picture it: He cannot keep a mental “undo button” that he plans to press if circumstances later change.
and declared, “It was written in my presence and signed in my presence”—
An agent bringing a from outside may be required to make this declaration in order to establish the 's validity.
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may not marry the woman himself,
because we are concerned that perhaps he desired her
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and therefore testified on her behalf.
Because his own statement helped establish the that made her available for marriage, he may not afterward marry her himself. Doing so could create suspicion that his testimony had been motivated by his desire for her.
This does not mean that his testimony is invalidated. Rather, the Sages prohibit the later marriage so that his personal benefit will not cast suspicion upon the testimony he gave.
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Similarly, if a single witness testified to a woman that her husband had died,
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and she was permitted to marry on the basis of his testimony—
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that witness may not marry her.
Here too, his own testimony is what permitted her to marry. He may therefore not afterward marry her himself, lest that create suspicion about why he testified.
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Similarly, a scholar who ruled that, because of a vow, a woman was forbidden to her husband—
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may not marry her himself.
Because his ruling established that the vow prohibited her to her husband, he may not afterward marry her himself. Otherwise, his later marriage to her could create suspicion that personal interest influenced his ruling.
The now turns to a second type of concern. In the following cases, the man did not give testimony or issue a ruling that made the woman available. Rather, there had already been suspicion or actuality of a prohibited relationship between them, and their later marriage could reinforce that concern.
Similarly, a man who was suspected of having relations with a maidservant
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and she was afterward freed,
or who was suspected of having relations with a non-Jewish woman
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and she afterward converted—
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may not marry her.
Although her later change in status now makes marriage possible, he should not marry her. Their marriage could reinforce the earlier suspicion that they had already been involved when marriage between them was not permitted.
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Similarly, if a non-Jew or a servant had relations with a Jewish woman,
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even if the non-Jew later converted,
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or the servant was later freed—
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he may not marry her.
Even after conversion or emancipation makes marriage possible, they should not marry. Their known prior relationship creates the same concern about formalizing a relationship that began when marriage between them was not permitted.
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In all of these cases,
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if they transgressed and married—
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we do not require them to separate.
These restrictions apply to entering the marriage initially. If the marriage nevertheless took place, the does not require the couple to divorce.
Synopsis
Some marriages are prohibited because they could cast suspicion on earlier testimony or a ruling that made the woman available. Others are prohibited because they could reinforce suspicion concerning an earlier prohibited relationship. In all of these cases, the marriage should not take place initially; if it nevertheless does, the couple is not required to separate.
Picture the CaseA concrete example + illustration
A woman's husband disappears.
is the single witness whose testimony establishes that the husband died, allowing the woman to remarry.
A few months later, announces:
“I'd like to marry her.”
Even if told the absolute truth, think about how that looks.
People may wonder:
“Was that why he testified in the first place?”
So the says may not marry her.
Picture it: The problem isn't necessarily that his testimony was false. The problem is that personally benefiting afterward creates suspicion about why he testified.
Even truthful testimony can appear self-interested if the witness later marries the woman whose remarriage his testimony permitted. therefore requires distance from that personal benefit.
🔎Dig DeeperMarriages That Could Create Suspicion
Marriages That Could Create Suspicion
A sole witness or judge whose words made a woman eligible to marry may not then marry her himself. The restriction keeps his earlier testimony or ruling from appearing to have been shaped by personal interest.
This is a safeguard against suspicion, not proof that wrongdoing occurred. That distinction explains why the marriage is discouraged at the outset but, in the cases defined here, is not automatically dissolved after it has already taken place.
This refers back to the men discussed in the previous .
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and their wives died,
or they were divorced,
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and it was the wives who brought about their husbands' decision to divorce them—
The significant point is that the man did not end his existing marriage in order to make himself available to marry the woman discussed in the previous . Either his wife died, or the divorce came about through his wife's initiative rather than through his own efforts to free himself for this other woman.
These intervening circumstances remove the basis for the concern that prohibited the later marriage initially.
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these women are permitted to marry them initially.
Under these circumstances, their marriage no longer creates the same suspicion, and it is permitted from the outset.
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Similarly, if these women went and married other men,
and were later widowed
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or divorced—
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they are permitted to marry these men initially.
Here too, the intervening marriage changes how the earlier events are viewed. Since the woman actually married someone else before eventually becoming available again, her later marriage to the man discussed in Halachah 14 no longer creates the same suspicion that the earlier testimony, ruling, or events were arranged so that these two could marry one another.
Synopsis
The restrictions of the previous apply only while the later marriage would create suspicion about what happened earlier. If the man's existing marriage ended independently, rather than because he sought to become available for this woman, or if the woman first married someone else and only later became widowed or divorced, they may marry each other even initially.
When the Concern About Personal Interest Does Not Apply
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Each of these women is permitted to marry the son of the witness who testified on her behalf,
The previous prohibited certain men from marrying these women because the marriage could create suspicion about the man's earlier testimony, ruling, or involvement.
That concern does not extend to his son.
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or the son of the scholar who ruled that she was forbidden to her husband,
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or the son of the man who had been suspected of having relations with her,
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or any of their other relatives—
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because a person is not presumed to sin in order for someone else to benefit.
The suspicion of personal interest applies when the man himself stands to benefit. We do not suspect that he testified falsely, issued an improper ruling, or otherwise acted wrongly merely so that his son or another relative could eventually marry the woman.
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A woman is also permitted to marry one of the to her divorce,
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or one of the to her mi'un,
A mi'un is a procedure through which, in the circumstances where permits it, a minor girl rejects a Rabbinically established marriage.
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or one of the judges before whom she performed —
is the procedure that releases a woman from the bond of .
In these cases, the woman's status did not depend upon the word of one man acting alone. There were multiple or judges involved.
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because this concern applies only to the testimony of a single witness.
This is the distinction from Halachah 14. When one man's testimony alone is what permits the woman, his later marriage to her can raise suspicion about why he testified. When her status was established through multiple or judges, we do not raise that same concern merely because one of them later marries her.
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A person should always distance himself from serving as a witness to mi'un,
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and make himself available to participate in .
The concludes with this practical guidance: one should distance himself from testimony concerning mi'un, while making himself available when his participation is needed for .
Synopsis
The concern that a man's testimony or ruling was motivated by his desire to marry a woman does not extend to his relatives, because we do not presume that someone will sin merely so another person can benefit. A woman may also marry one of multiple or judges involved in establishing her status; the special concern applies when her permission depends upon a single witness.
Picture the CaseA concrete example
Now change one detail.
testified that the woman's husband died.
But doesn't want to marry her. Years later, 's son wants to marry her.
That's permitted.
Why?
Because we don't suspect that would commit a sin and give false testimony just so that someone else could eventually benefit.
Picture it: himself marrying her raises a conflict-of-interest concern. His son marrying her does not create the same suspicion.
🔎Dig DeeperWhen the Concern About Personal Interest Does Not Apply
When the Concern About Personal Interest Does Not Apply
The concern in the previous is personal: perhaps the man shaped his testimony or ruling because he hoped to marry the woman. It therefore does not automatically extend to his son, brother, or another relative.
The 's reasoning is that people are not ordinarily suspected of committing a sin merely to create a benefit for someone else. Similarly, when several or judges acted together, the woman's status did not depend on one man's word alone, so the special concern is weakened.
The describes situations where a person's testimony or ruling may be completely valid, yet he still should not later marry the woman involved because doing so could make people question whether he had a personal interest all along.
There is a powerful lesson here: integrity isn't only about being honest. It's also about avoiding situations that reasonably make honest actions look self-serving. When you have influence over a decision, ask yourself: Do I personally benefit from the outcome? Could someone reasonably wonder whether that affected me? Sometimes the right response is not merely to say, “But I know my intentions were pure.” It is to create enough distance that your integrity speaks for itself.
Try today
The next time you have both influence and a personal stake in a decision, disclose the connection or step back where appropriate.
and afterward has relations with her in the presence of ,
This means that the relations occur in circumstances established by . As the next explains, through relations does not require the to observe the intimate act itself.
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before she marries another man,
The is discussing a divorced couple who resume relations before the woman has married anyone else.
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whether he divorced her after nisu'in,
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or after —
This ruling applies whether their original relationship had progressed to nisu'in or had consisted only of .
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since she had previously been his wife,
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we presume that he took her back,
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and that he had relations with her for the purpose of ,
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not for the sake of a non-marital relationship.
Because she had previously been his wife, the applies a — legal presumption: when they resume relations in circumstances capable of effecting , we presume that he intends to restore their marriage rather than engage in a prohibited non-marital relationship.
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This applies even if saw him give her money—
Even then, we do not interpret the money as showing that their relations were merely transactional or non-marital.
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because there is a presumption that a man does not make his relations with his wife an act of licentiousness,
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when it is within his ability to make those relations an act of .
Since he can make the relationship permitted by intending the relations themselves to effect , we presume that this is his intention.
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Therefore, she has the established status of being definitely to him,
The does not treat this merely as doubtful . Since we know that relations occurred and apply the presumption that they were intended for , she is treated as definitely to him again.
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and she requires a second from him.
The first ended the original marriage. Their subsequent relations created new , so another is required if that renewed marriage is to be terminated.
Synopsis
If a divorced couple resumes relations before the woman marries another man, the presumes that the man intended those relations to renew their rather than to be a non-marital relationship. She is therefore definitely to him again and requires a second .
Picture the CaseA concrete example
and divorce.
A few months later, before has married anyone else, they begin reconnecting. Eventually, they have relations in circumstances established by .
They never held a new wedding. never formally said, “I am marrying you again.”
Nevertheless, the says is considered definitely to again.
Why?
Because she was previously his wife, and we presume that when they resumed relations, intended to restore their marriage rather than engage in a non-marital relationship.
If they now want to separate again, needs another .
Picture it: The first really worked. But their later actions created a new .
🔎Dig DeeperWhen Relations With a Divorcee Renew the
When Relations With a Divorcee Renew the
When know that a divorced couple had relations, the treats the renewed as definite. Within their former marital relationship, the presumption is that the man intended marriage rather than a non-marital relationship.
proves less. It creates a concern that relations may have occurred, but the did not see the act itself. The resulting status is therefore doubtful, and that concern is limited when the original relationship ended before nisu'in and the couple never shared the familiarity of married life.
If he entered into seclusion with her in the presence of —
Unlike the previous , here the do not know that relations actually occurred. They witnessed only the former husband and wife enter into — private seclusion together.
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provided that the two observed the seclusion together:
The same two must observe the together.
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if she had been divorced after nisu'in,
This qualification is important. Unlike Halachah 17, which applies even if the original relationship had reached only , the raises the following concern from alone when the couple had previously entered nisu'in and lived together as husband and wife.
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we are concerned that perhaps they had relations,
Because they had previously shared a married life, their renewed private seclusion creates a concern that relations may have occurred.
and those very to the seclusion
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serve as the for the relations;
This does not mean that the are treated as though they actually saw the intimate act. Rather, through relations does not require to observe the relations themselves.
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for whenever a man effects through relations,
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he does not need to have relations in the actual presence of ,
rather, he enters into seclusion with her in their presence
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and then has relations with her privately,
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as we have explained.
The establish the couple's deliberate entry into the private setting in which the relations can take place. They do not need to witness the relations themselves.
Here, however, they know only that occurred. We do not know whether relations actually followed.
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Therefore, she requires a because of the doubt,
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and her status is that of a woman whose are doubtful.
This is the key difference from Halachah 17. There, we know that relations occurred, so the treats the renewed as definite. Here, the saw only . Since relations may or may not have occurred, the renewed are doubtful, and she therefore requires another because of that doubt.
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But if she had been divorced after —
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we do not raise this concern regarding her,
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because he does not have the same familiarity with her.
If their original relationship had never progressed beyond , after the divorce does not create the same concern that relations took place. They had not previously lived together as husband and wife and therefore did not have the degree of familiarity that gives rise to the concern in the nisu'in case.
Synopsis
If a divorced couple who had previously entered nisu'in are seen entering together, we are concerned that relations may have occurred and renewed their . Because the know only that occurred, the are doubtful and she requires another because of that doubt. If the original relationship had ended during , however, alone does not create this concern because they did not have the same prior familiarity.
Picture the CaseA concrete example
Now change the previous case.
and divorced after years of marriage.
Later, two see them enter a private room together and remain there alone.
The do not know whether relations occurred.
That's the difference.
If relations definitely occurred, Halachah 17 treats as definitely again.
Here, there was only . Perhaps relations occurred; perhaps they did not.
So is safek mekudeshes — doubtfully , and she needs another because of that doubt.
Picture it:
Relations known to have occurred → definite .
Only was witnessed → doubtful .
The Rebbe ExplainsYichud can itself express the act of marriage
Yichud can itself express the act of marriage
The says that the who saw the former husband and wife enter can serve as the for the relations that may have followed. They do not need to see the intimate act itself. Their testimony establishes that the couple deliberately entered a private setting in which a marital act could take place.
The Rebbe draws a deeper point from this wording. undertaken leshem —for the purpose of establishing married life—is not merely a private circumstance that surrounds marriage. The deliberate entry into that exclusive setting is itself comparable to an act of , because it expresses the couple beginning to live together as husband and wife.
This does not mean that alone always creates . In this , the couple had previously lived together through nisu'in, so their familiarity creates a concern that relations occurred, and the therefore rules that the woman is only doubtfully . The Rebbe's insight explains why the witnessed nevertheless has such legal weight: when it is directed toward marriage, it is part of the very form of marital union—not simply evidence from the outside.
Sources
, vol. 39, Ki Seitzei, p. 33 and note 22 · Read source ↗
Some of the ruled that whenever a man has relations with a woman in the presence of ,
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she requires a —
According to this view, witnessed relations themselves create sufficient reason to treat the woman as possibly , even when she was not previously this man's wife.
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based on the presumption that a person does not make his relations an act of licentiousness.
These broadly applied the same — legal presumption encountered in Halachah 17. They presumed that when relations could serve as , a man would intend them for rather than deliberately engage in a non-marital relationship.
The will sharply limit that presumption below.
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They extended this idea even further,
to the point that they ruled that if a man has a son from his maidservant,
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we take into account the possibility concerning that son,
The concern is that the child might actually have been born after the mother's status had changed.
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and the man's wife should therefore not undergo —
If the man dies, this son might count as his child. If so, the man's wife would not be subject to .
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because perhaps he freed his maidservant,
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and afterward had relations with her.
According to this opinion, perhaps he first freed the woman and then had relations with her. If those relations were intended for , the son could have the status of the man's child in a manner that removes the obligation of from his wife.
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Some of them went further and ruled that we may assume with certainty that he freed her,
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because a person does not make his relations an act of licentiousness.
This view goes beyond merely raising the possibility that he freed her. It treats the presumption as strong enough to establish that he certainly did so before having relations with her.
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But all of these rulings—
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are, in my view, exceedingly far from the proper paths of ruling,
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and it is not proper to rely upon them.
The explicitly rejects this broad application of the . The principle that a person does not intend his relations to be non-marital cannot simply be applied to every relationship.
He now defines the situations in which this presumption does apply.
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For the Sages stated this presumption only
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with regard to his own wife whom he had divorced,
This is the situation discussed in Halachah 17. Because she had already been his wife, renewed relations are presumed to have been intended to restore their marriage.
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or when a man performed subject to a condition and afterward had relations with her without specifying a condition,
In this second case, he originally performed subject to a condition, but later had relations with her without restating that condition.
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for she is already his wife—
There is already a marital framework between them. Therefore, when he later has relations without specifying otherwise, the applies the presumption that he intends those relations within an unrestricted marital framework.
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and it is specifically with his wife that we presume that he does not make his relations an act of licentiousness,
The crucial factor is the existing or former marital relationship. The does not treat this as a universal assumption about every man and woman who have relations.
unless he explicitly states that the relations are non-marital,
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or explicitly states that he is having relations subject to a condition.
The supplies an unstated marital intention. If he expressly states a different intention, we do not use the presumption to override what he said.
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With regard to other women, however—
a woman with whom he has relations outside an established marital framework is presumed to have been with him for the sake of a non-marital relationship,
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unless he explicitly states that his intention is .
Outside an existing or former marital relationship, the does not automatically transform relations into . An intention to effect must be stated.
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Needless to say, this is true regarding a maidservant or a non-Jewish woman,
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with whom cannot take effect,
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for we do not raise any concern of regarding them at all;
As long as the woman remains a maidservant or non-Jewish, cannot take effect with her. The therefore does not speculate that her status must secretly have changed merely because the man had relations with her.
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and a son born from such a woman
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retains the presumed status of a non-Jew or a servant, respectively,
until it becomes known with certainty that his mother was freed
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or converted.
We follow the mother's known status unless there is definite evidence that it changed. The existence of the relationship or of a child does not by itself establish that she was previously freed or converted.
Synopsis
Some broadly applied the presumption that a person does not intend his relations to be non-marital. The strongly rejects that expansion. He applies the presumption specifically within an existing or former marital framework. With other women, are not presumed without an explicit intention for ; and with a maidservant or non-Jewish woman, no change of status is presumed without definite evidence.
Renewed at a Glance
Former wife, witnessed relations: definite ; she requires a second .
Former wife, after nisu'in: doubtful ; she requires a because of the doubt.
Former , only: no additional is required on the basis of alone.
Another woman: are not presumed without explicit intent.
🔎Dig DeeperWhen the Presumption of Marital Intent Applies
When the Presumption of Marital Intent Applies
The limits the presumption of marital intent to an existing or former marriage. He does not use it to create whenever an unmarried couple has relations, and he does not assume that a maidservant was freed or that a non-Jewish woman converted without clear evidence.
The would give a morally observant man a broader presumption, while the follows the Rambam's narrower approach. A shared intention to live together is also not enough by itself: require an act that establishes the union according to .
If a woman has an established status as a married woman,
The now discusses the power of a — a circulating report or rumor—to affect a woman's marital status.
whether that status arose through nisu'in
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or through ,
Whether she had already entered nisu'in or was only an , she has an established status as bound to her husband.
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and a report spreads through the city that she has been divorced,
even if most of the city
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or even everyone in the city is circulating the report that she was divorced—
The sheer number of people repeating a report does not transform it into proof of a divorce.
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we do not give this report legal weight,
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and she remains in her established status.
A rumor cannot overturn an already established marital status. Once she is known to be married, even a widespread report that she was divorced does not establish that a divorce actually occurred.
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But if a report had spread through the city that she was ,
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and that report was established before ,
Not every rumor has significance. Here the is speaking about a that was formally recognized by and therefore created a concern regarding her status.
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so that she is regarded as doubtfully , as we have explained,
Her status as possibly married did not arise from established . It arose from the legally significant report itself.
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and afterward a report spreads that she was divorced from those same —
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she is regarded as divorced,
because a was what prohibited her,
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and a is what permits her.
The difference lies in the strength of her original status.
If she was actually established as married, a rumor cannot undo that status. But if the only reason she was treated as possibly was itself a legally recognized , a later reporting that those same ended through divorce can remove the restriction created by the first report.
In short: the first report created her doubtful status, so a corresponding report of divorce can remove the restriction that arose from it.
Synopsis
A rumor of divorce cannot overturn a woman's established status as married, even if the report spreads throughout the city. But if her original status as doubtfully arose only from a legally recognized , a later that she was divorced from those can permit her: קול אסרה וקול התירה — the rumor prohibited her, and a rumor permits her.
Picture the CaseA concrete example + illustration
Now imagine a different woman, Chana.
Nobody actually witnessed Chana's , but a legally significant develops that she became , and recognizes that report. Chana is therefore treated as safek mekudeshes.
Later, another recognized report spreads that those very ended in divorce.
Here the says:
קוֹל אֲסָרָהּ וְקוֹל הִתִּירָהּ
“The rumor prohibited her, and a rumor permits her.”
Picture it: Rivka's actual established marriage cannot be erased by rumor. Chana's restriction itself began with a , so a corresponding can remove it.
A rumor cannot overturn an established marriage. But when a woman’s restriction began through a legally recognized , a corresponding can remove that restriction.
✦Live ItDon't Build a Story From Assumptions
Don't Build a Story From Assumptions
The is remarkably careful about presumptions. In one specific context, previous marriage creates a strong about a person's intention. But in Halachah 19, the strongly rejects extending that assumption everywhere. And in Halachah 20, even an entire city's rumor cannot overturn an established status.
The lesson is simple: don't turn assumptions into facts. Someone didn't answer your message. Someone looked upset. You heard something about another person. Your mind can quickly fill in the missing pieces until the story feels certain. But feeling certain is not the same as knowing.
Try today
When you catch yourself reacting to an assumption today, separate it into two sentences: “What I know is…” and “What I'm assuming is…”
A man should not marry a woman while already intending to divorce her.
A man should not enter a marriage while already planning to end it.
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Nor should she continue living with him as his wife and sharing married life with him while he intends to divorce her.
The extends the principle beyond the beginning of the marriage. A woman should not continue living with her husband as though the marriage is continuing normally while he has already resolved to divorce her.
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A man should not divorce his first wife unless he finds in her an ervas davar — a matter of serious marital impropriety,
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as it is stated, “Because he found in her an ervas davar” ( 24:1).
The retains the 's phrase ervas davar as the standard here for divorcing one's first wife. The phrase is best retained in Hebrew because it is the 's own legal terminology and is not fully captured by a single English expression.
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And it is not proper for him to rush to send away his first wife.
Even when there is a basis for divorce, the says that one should not be quick to end a marriage with one's first wife.
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With a later wife, however, if he hates her, he may send her away.
The distinguishes between one's first wife and a subsequent wife. For a first wife, he requires ervas davar and cautions against rushing to divorce her. With a later wife, if the relationship has reached the point that he hates her, he may divorce her.
Synopsis
A man should not marry a woman while already intending to divorce her, nor should he continue married life with her while secretly intending to end the marriage. The says that a man should not divorce his first wife unless there is an ervas davar, and even then he should not rush to do so. With a later wife, however, if he hates her, he may divorce her.
Picture the CaseA concrete example
A man gets engaged and privately thinks:
“I'll marry her for now, but I'm planning to divorce her in six months.”
The says he should not enter the marriage that way.
Or imagine they're already married. His wife thinks everything is normal, while he has quietly made a firm decision to divorce her and simply hasn't told her yet.
The says he should not continue ordinary married life with her while secretly holding that intention.
Picture it: She shouldn't be living inside one version of the marriage while he has privately decided on a completely different one.
🔎Dig DeeperEntering and Ending a Marriage Responsibly
Entering and Ending a Marriage Responsibly
The 's strict language about divorcing a first wife is read against the broader discussion at the end of . The explains that the special restraint attached to a first marriage can coexist with the more permissive ruling stated for a later marriage.
The offers two ways to understand the Rambam's warning not to act hastily: consent may change the legal issue, and even serious reports should be investigated carefully before an irreversible decision is made. The teaching is not that a destructive marriage must always continue, but that a first marriage should never be ended impulsively.
✦Live ItDon't Let Someone Live Inside a False Reality
Don't Let Someone Live Inside a False Reality
The says a man should not marry a woman while already planning to divorce her. He also should not continue ordinary married life with her while privately intending to divorce her.
There is something deeply unfair about allowing another person to make choices based on a reality that you already know isn't true. That applies in smaller relationships too. If you've committed to something, changed your mind about something important, or know someone is relying on an assumption that is no longer true, don't quietly let them continue building on it.
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Is there something important that someone reasonably believes about your plans or commitment that you already know has changed? Don't leave them operating with outdated information.
and who does not conduct herself with the modesty of proper Jewish women—
The describes a situation in which the wife's character and conduct are seriously improper.
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it is a to divorce her,
This is stronger than merely saying that divorce is permitted. In the situation the describes, divorcing her is itself considered a .
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as it is stated, “Drive away the scoffer, and contention will depart” (Mishlei 22:10).
The cites this verse in support of the ruling that divorcing such a woman is a .
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And a woman who was divorced because of immoral conduct—
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it is not fitting for an upright man to marry her,
The does not say that with her would fail. Rather, he says that such a marriage is not fitting for an kasher — an upright person.
for it is not fitting that one man should remove wickedness from his home
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while another brings it into his own home.
The 's point is pointed: it is not fitting that one man remove a woman from his home because of such conduct while another upright man knowingly brings her into his own home.
Synopsis
When a wife's character and conduct are seriously improper in the manner described by the , divorcing her is a . If she was divorced because of immoral conduct, it is not fitting for an upright man to marry her.
A in this context is a deaf-mute with the limited legal capacity associated with that status. This is the specific classical category discussed by and should not automatically be applied to every deaf person today.
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he may divorce her with a ,
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and she becomes divorced.
Her becoming a after marriage does not prevent the divorce from taking effect.
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But if she becomes mentally incapable of caring for and protecting herself—
he may not divorce her
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until she recovers.
The now distinguishes a woman whose condition leaves her unable to protect herself. He immediately explains that the restriction against divorcing her is a protective enactment of the Sages.
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This is an enactment of the Sages,
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so that she should not be left vulnerable to immoral people,
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since she is unable to protect herself.
The Sages prohibited him from divorcing her because doing so could leave her without the ability to safeguard herself.
This distinction is crucial: prohibited him from giving the divorce because of the danger she would face afterward; they did not make such a inherently ineffective. The will therefore rule below that if he violates their enactment and gives her an otherwise effective , the divorce takes effect.
Therefore, he may leave her living separately
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and marry another woman,
Although the Sages prevent him from divorcing her, they do not require him to continue sharing ordinary married life with her.
This is the ’s ruling within the original framework of Talmudic marriage law. In communities, and in other communities that observe the ban of , a husband may not ordinarily marry a second wife or divorce his wife against her will. The practical financial obligations may therefore differ, and exceptional cases require the guidance of qualified authorities.
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and he sees that she is provided with food and drink from her own resources.
Her food and drink are provided from her own property, rather than imposing upon him the ordinary personal obligation to support her from his resources.
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We do not obligate him in the ordinary marital obligations of she'er, kesus, and ,
Although he sees that she receives food and drink from her own resources, the does not impose upon him the ordinary marital obligations represented by she'er, kesus, and .
because a person of sound mind cannot be expected
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to live in one home with someone who is mentally incapable.
The Rabbinic enactment protects her from being abandoned through divorce, but it does not compel the husband to continue sharing a household and ordinary married life with her.
He is not obligated to pay for her medical treatment,
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nor to redeem her if she is taken captive.
These are additional obligations that ordinarily arise within marriage. The clarifies that although the Sages prevent him from divorcing her, they did not preserve all of his ordinary marital obligations toward her.
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If he nevertheless divorced her,
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she is divorced.
This confirms the distinction made above. The Sages prohibited him from divorcing her as a protective measure, but they did not render the itself ineffective. If he violates their enactment and gives her an otherwise valid , the divorce takes effect.
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He may then remove her from his home,
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and he is not obligated to return and attend to her needs.
Once the divorce has actually taken effect, their marital bond has ended, and the does not impose upon him an ongoing obligation to return and personally care for her.
Synopsis
If a wife becomes a , her husband may divorce her and the takes effect. If she becomes mentally incapable of protecting herself, however, the Sages prohibit him from divorcing her so that she will not be left vulnerable. He may live separately and marry another woman, while seeing that she receives food and drink from her own resources; he is not required to maintain the ordinary marital relationship or its other obligations. If he nevertheless violates the Rabbinic enactment and divorces her, the divorce takes effect.
Picture the CaseA concrete example
A woman develops a condition that leaves her unable to care for and protect herself.
Her husband wants to divorce her.
Normally, a husband has the power to give a . But say: not here.
Why?
Imagine what happens the next morning.
She is now alone, unable to protect herself and vulnerable to people who may take advantage of her.
So prohibit him from divorcing her.
But here is the crucial distinction: if he violates their enactment and nevertheless gives her an otherwise valid , the works.
Picture it: said, “You may not do this because she needs protection.” They did not say, “A given in this situation is incapable of taking effect.”
🔎Dig DeeperWhen a Wife Becomes Unable to Protect Herself
When a Wife Becomes Unable to Protect Herself
The restriction on divorcing a wife who has lost the ability to protect herself is designed to keep her from being left exposed and without care. If she cannot safeguard the itself, all views agree that the attempted divorce cannot take effect; the authorities debate cases in which she can safeguard the document but not herself.
The stresses that treatment may restore a person's health, and later authorities discuss the husband's continuing duties of support and medical care. In communities governed by the ban against divorcing a wife without her consent, those duties remain especially important even when the spouses must live apart.
✦Live ItProtect the Person Who Can't Protect Themselves
Protect the Person Who Can't Protect Themselves
The 's ruling here is striking. A woman becomes unable to protect herself, and restrict her husband's ability to divorce her specifically:
שֶׁהֲרֵי אֵינָהּ יְכוֹלָה לִשְׁמֹר אֶת עַצְמָהּ
“because she is unable to protect herself.”
does not look only at what someone technically has the power to do. It also looks at what happens to the vulnerable person afterward.
That is a powerful way to look at our own choices: Who has less power in this situation? Who is depending on other people to notice what they need? A child. An elderly relative. A struggling neighbor. A new employee. Someone who isn't comfortable speaking up.
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Notice one person today who may not be in a position to advocate for themselves. Do one concrete thing that makes their situation easier or safer.
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Chapter 10 at a glance
From an invalid to responsible divorce
The chapter first distinguishes a void , a Rabbinically defective , and a doubtful divorce. It then follows the consequences of mistaken remarriages, protects the integrity of testimony and rulings, explains when renewed relations can create , and closes with the responsibilities surrounding divorce.
When the says that a is “void,” “not a ,” or that “she is not divorced,” no divorce has taken effect under law and the woman remains fully married. The exceptional case of rei'ach ha- does not create a valid divorce, but it does Rabbinically disqualify her from the .
A described as is effective under law but has a Rabbinic defect. The woman should not remarry initially, but if she already did, she remains with her second husband and their children are legitimate. A fully valid replacement should be obtained when possible.
means that it is genuinely uncertain whether the woman was divorced. She therefore may not remarry, and if she does, she must leave the second husband. According to the ’s wording, if the original husband takes her back after a or doubtful divorce, new nisu'in, Sheva Berachos, and a new are not required; the and nevertheless understand that renewed are still necessary.
If a woman entered a second marriage on the basis of a that was actually void, she requires a from both men: the first to end her actual marriage, and the second by Rabbinic decree because she had publicly lived as his wife. She becomes permanently forbidden to both.
When a woman entered a second marriage and it later became clear that her first marriage had never ended, the ordinary financial rights and obligations of marriage do not operate normally between her and either man. A child from the second man is a ; if the first husband has relations with her before the required from the second man is given, the resulting child is a by Rabbinic decree. Payments she already received from the second man before the mistake was discovered are not taken back.
The sister of an requires a because otherwise people might assume that the original had been conditional and failed, making his marriage to the sister lawful. Once the sister receives a , however, the original becomes forbidden to him so that it will not appear that he married his divorcee's sister.
If the and receipt were accidentally switched and the mistake is discovered before the woman remarries, she was never divorced; the husband must properly give her the , and the divorce takes effect from that delivery. If she has already remarried before the first husband produces the , however, her established status as divorced is maintained, and we presume that she had received the and later lost it.
Some marriages are prohibited because they could cast suspicion on earlier testimony or a ruling that made the woman available. Others are prohibited because they could reinforce suspicion concerning an earlier prohibited relationship. In all of these cases, the marriage should not take place initially; if it nevertheless does, the couple is not required to separate.
If a divorced couple resumes relations before the woman marries another man, the presumes that the man intended those relations to renew their rather than to be a non-marital relationship. She is therefore definitely to him again and requires a second .
Some broadly applied the presumption that a person does not intend his relations to be non-marital. The strongly rejects that expansion. He applies the presumption specifically within an existing or former marital framework. With other women, are not presumed without an explicit intention for ; and with a maidservant or non-Jewish woman, no change of status is presumed without definite evidence.
A man should not marry a woman while already intending to divorce her, nor should he continue married life with her while secretly intending to end the marriage. The says that a man should not divorce his first wife unless there is an ervas davar, and even then he should not rush to do so. With a later wife, however, if he hates her, he may divorce her.
If a wife becomes a , her husband may divorce her and the takes effect. If she becomes mentally incapable of protecting herself, however, the Sages prohibit him from divorcing her so that she will not be left vulnerable. He may live separately and marry another woman, while seeing that she receives food and drink from her own resources; he is not required to maintain the ordinary marital relationship or its other obligations. If he nevertheless violates the Rabbinic enactment and divorces her, the divorce takes effect.
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